Those that love buying gifts because they want to fulfill the other person’s desires:
Husband 1: “My wife has been coveting the Céline Mini Luggage in black for some time now and I wanted to buy it for her for her birthday, could you pleaseeee help me…”
Those that love buying gifts that they want to buy for the other person:
Husband 2: “My wife doesn’t need another black bag, what she really needs is a Kitchen Aid mixer so she can make me some more of her famous cheesecake…”
Both people are thoughtful, right? I mean… both husbands are at least thoughtful enough to buy a gift for their wife.
The point i’m making is not that they are thoughtful enough, but that one is willing to listen to the giftee (wife) and wants to fulfill her desires.
Like many circumstances that we come across in relationships, the motivator behind gift giving and hospitality ( not just in the customer service sense, but even the way you may treat your employees as a CEO or Manager) is the same. We need to LISTEN and take heart to what the other person is saying and not just stop there, but understand what their wants are.
Ask yourself “How can I make this person happy… how can I make their day just a little better?”
After all, we don’t live in this world by ourselves. We were created to create relationships and have interactions with one another. *I know that hermits do exist and if you are one yourself, please don’t take offense to my opinions… it’s just that…I feel very passionately about this subject.
Gift giving is not just the act of giving material goods, but it’s an act that shows selflessness and an integral part of building a relationship.